Sex After Baby?

As you are probably well aware, there is nothing pretty about childbirth. I now know why men were to wait outside during childbirth in the old days. Once my husband saw our first child born I thought for sure we would never have sex again. That is until we had sex in December of last year and this September our second child was born. Yes, Sure-Shot has met and married Fertile Myrtle. What a bad combination if you are done having children.

Now I'd like you to think I'm the ultimate prude, but that isn't the case. Sex is something I really enjoy with my husband. He apparently doesn't mind either since one of his New Years resolutions for 2007 was to please me as often as I wished (which can be often). As he would say, he did his job so well our second child was born in September. Generally this wouldn't be a problem, but since I've been pregnant for the better part of the last 2 years, I'm paranoid that I will get pregnant again. I know that mentally and physically my body can't handle being pregnant right now and needs a couple years to get back on track again. You can imagine what happens next. "Not right now honey, I have a headache". Just kidding but if the paranoia doesn't kill the mood then the lack of sleep takes care of that.

Yes there is protection that can be used. Since my hormones are so messed up right now the pill and any female surgery (hysterectomy, tubal ligation, etc.) is out. I need to let the status quo come back to normal before I start screwing around with my hormones again (no pun intended). IUD's are out on principle and condoms work when used and if they don't break. This leads to abstinence. What a bummer that is. What's the point in being married if you are afraid of having sex because you don't want to get pregnant? And to think there are couples out there who can only dream of being in a situation where they can get pregnant at the drop of a hat.

The last option is to have my husband get snipped. I see no problem with this. We would be able to have sex as often as we want and not have to worry about what happens 40 weeks later. It's an outpatient procedure that takes next to no time and has few side affects. The only problem is that my husband is too afraid to do it. Interesting how it's alright for me to pass 9 lb bowling balls from between my legs but he can't have 2 minor cuts made? What a double standard that is and it's pissing me off!!!

Would you be able to tell from this that my husband doesn't want any more children? We love the children we have but 2 is more than enough for both of us. They call them Irish Twins. It's really difficult right now since they are both babies, but it is supposed to get easier in a couple years. We'll see, but that's a couple years away and right now it's tough.

If you have any ideas please pass them along. I'm more than willing to listen.